Category Archives: finding your own way

I Remind Myself, in Troubled Times

Have the courage to accept our responsibility and our pain as our starting point. Imagine, seek and honor the most compelling truth of “the other side.” Abandon demeaning speech and belittling thoughts. Forgive others for not being perfect, for not … Continue reading

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Shhhh! A secret…

So this is how my dear friend J began our conversation the other day. “Okay, now my mom told me not to tell you, but–” Egad!  That is a scary start.  I sat ramrod stiff and waiting for the scoop.  … Continue reading

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I know what this looks like.

Eons have passed—literal eons—since I last blogged.  It’s obvious what’s going on.  I have been transmogrified into a mongrel and have been living on the streets of New York since my apartment building doesn’t allow pets.  I hope I failed … Continue reading

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Beyond the Point of No Returns

There’s no two ways about it.  Writing is an insane activity.  Both when it’s working—and one walks along city streets in earnest, deep conversation with oneself, periodically stopping still to jot down notes—and when it’s not working (which involves more … Continue reading

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Developing Characters, or: What Doesn’t Kill You…

The other morning I had a guest over for brunch.  In other words, I had to tidy the apartment.  The problem was that my apartment was already tidy.  This is because I’m writing a book, and writing a book requires … Continue reading

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Is this the third act I see before me?

Zoikes, things are moving along now.  I’ve been moving into the third act and rounding out the second.  What required the break-through?  Unflagging pursuit, I reckon. I reckon that just as growth is a sign of life, pursuit is one of … Continue reading

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The More Things Change… The More They SEEM the Same At First.

Two days ago a friend asked me if I enjoy writing.  I crossed the street before answering.  “I hate it passionately, and want to wring writing’s throat,” didn’t seem like the fully appropriate answer. True, mind you, just not necessarily … Continue reading

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that magic feeling

Scenes don’t stand alone in books.  They fit, they move, they’re living parts of the organism that is a book.  Ideally. But for them to work like that requires vision and a sense of the larger story, of the whole.  … Continue reading

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The Golden Rule

is there are no rules. No rules about writing, that is.  They’ll tell you not to rewrite at all until the whole draft’s done.  Never look back.  They’ll tell you to re-read your last scene to feel your mood, and … Continue reading

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Love Hurts; ruminations from a delirium daze

There’s a time and there’s a place for uncertainty, and that time and that place is not between the covers of one’s own book.  To crawl between the sheets of someone else’s book may be insightful, but my goodness, it’s … Continue reading

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